This blog was originally posted here. Since my divorce about four years ago, I’ve learned more about myself and life than I did during my first 41 years of life. I was with the same man for almost 20 years. I hadn’t worked outside the home for almost 14. I had a cushy, comfortable life that was literally gone with one conversation. I remember being paralyzed with fear on the night my … [Read more...]
Barbara Cole on The Jennifer Hargrave Show
Barbara shares her experience in helping families through the divorce process over the past 37 years on The Jennifer Hargrave Show. … [Read more...]
Obedience to God’s Will of Love
This is a meditation originally written by Richard Rohr. I have been a fan of Richard Rohr for many years. You can find the original article here. Benedictine Sister Joan Chittister is a theologian, author, and speaker, whose wisdom and approach to social justice I take very seriously. I offer you these encouraging words from her about what it means to work for the common good. Joan … [Read more...]
Financial Tips and Advice for Women in a Divorce
This article originally appeared on https://blog.massmutual.com/post/women-divorce-tips. Women often fare worse financially after a divorce than men do for several reasons. In heterosexual marriages where both the man and woman are employed, the man out earns the woman 77.8 percent of the time, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.1 This means that post-divorce, many women lose … [Read more...]
One Way Happy Couples Argue That Differs From Ordinary Couples
This article was originally posted on Forbes Conflict is a part of any couple relationship even with the happiest couples with a long history. Typical issues include money, sex, children, in-laws and intimacy. The pandemic has added another layer of tension to many couple relationships. It might sound conflicting (no pun intended), but a long-standing body of marital research shows that couples … [Read more...]
How Do You Divorce With Grace?
What does grace mean in the context of divorce? The first answer to that question is feeling at peace with your decision. That doesn't mean there won't be pain or difficulties associated with that decision, but grace is the confidence that comes from knowing that you've chosen wisely. No one wants to repeatedly stop and start the divorce process. That's just too emotionally … [Read more...]
How to Achieve a Child-Centered Divorce
What is a child-centered divorce? It starts with the parents' commitment to put the overall welfare of their child or children first—before the parents' needs for power, property or positioning in the case. The “Mission Statement” of Divorcing Parents: Children Are the Priority For a divorce to be child centered the conversation and commitment starts in the first interview with the … [Read more...]
What are the Most Common Causes for Divorce?
People carry many misconceptions about divorce. They often assume it is due to issues such as money or religious differences. Often the problem goes much deeper and is more organic. It has been my experience that the most common reasons for divorce come down to one of these three things: Addiction: One partner has a addiction to alcohol, drugs, shopping, pornography, food, or another … [Read more...]
