Often, I tell people that whatever conflict the parents are having, it goes right through the middle of their child or their children. As adults, they have to back up and make sure that the words they say and the actions they take are not about them. They have to mature into a new kind of relationship where they are co-parents for their children. They have to put the bitterness and the anxiety of what happened in the behind them. Any words that are not healthy or not good words might as well just be put them through the middle of your children. Hopefully, that helps people understand to back up and do things a little differently.